Land of the Lost

Land of the Lost is actually a tv show I grew up watching in the 80’s. I thought it was a good title, but if only we were so lucky to be lost with others. The lost that comes to mind for me is being lost within. It’s the most scariest feeling because all you know is your overwhelmed with fear, and when you look around it seems like everybody has this thing called life all firgured out, but not me. It’s a very alone feeling. It’s like looking in the mirror and as soon as you turn from it, you forget what you look like. You dont know what makes you happy, you dont know if your in the right career and yes, you even ask yourself, “who am I?”

If all that doesn’t sound scary enough, most of the time the fear of not knowing who you are is accompanied with horrible feelings of anxiety, sometimes even panic attacks that paralyze you with fear. Your afraid to drive, go to the mall, and normal life begins to feel hopeless. If youre experiencing this type of anxiety, or know a friend who does, here’s some good news.

This form of anxiety is often referred to as Existential Anxiety. Its the fear of non-being, and it feels more like the fear of death. More accuratley put, its the fear of not existing and there are many situations that can make us feel this way. The death of a loved one who we’ve built our lives around, the break up of a lover who we’ve invested so much of ourselves into, or following the guidance of an overbearing parent, who leaves, dies, or just decides not to give us any more guidance. Something all these scenerios have in common is that for a long period of time somebody elses desires or lives, for whatever reason, we learned was more important than our own. Then suddenly we are left to figure out who we are and what to do with our lives. 

As one might guess, you won’t figure this out in a day, not two, not even three. It’s a process that continues throughout our life. But the healing begins when we learn to love ourselves while in the process. It’s about learning to be compassionate with ourselves as we take baby steps, it’s about being uncritical with ourselves as we choose the things in life that make us happy, and it’s also about learning to protect this process and the relationship we’re building with ourselves as we grow more and more in love with the person we’re becoming.


What is self-worth? How do you estimate your value and what does that look like?

Self-Worth is your birthright. Everyone is a uniquely unfolding individual equipped with abilities and talents; combined with  environment, genetics and the meaning you derive from your experiences.  No two individuals are the same. Each person is a rare find.
Building self-worth begins in early childhood. What were the messages you received from your parents, their relations with others, your relations with teachers, a mentor or society? Were you encouraged to express yourself or did you hear people say, “a child is to be seen and not heard?” Did society affirm your cultural or gender differences or did society say your differences were inferior?
As we grow through the stages of development we assign meaning to the messages we received and internalize them as our own
Many messages we received, motivated us to go forward in the direction of our dreams. Other messages did not value our true identity and we learned to live  beneath our potential. Not knowing our worth, we devalued our talents and ignored our feelings. We  disrespected our bodies, and underestimated our abilities.
Discover yourself worthy. Ask self exploratory questions:
What do I do well? What positive genetic traits did I get from my family? What positive compliments do I frequently hear from others? And believe it, your worth it! Good Luck in your journey , “Know Thyself.”


There was a time when people looked at therapy as chic. Conversations began with, “my therapist said,” and people in the group would compare their personal growth. At that particular time therapy was only accessible to those who could afford it. Times have changed. People from all walks of life are now utilizing therapies and many more people are becoming self-actualized. Self-actualization has become somewhat of a movement. People are risking everything for happiness and I am pretty excited about this movement. As a psychotherapist and Owner of Pathway to Purpose, my mission is to help as many people as possible discover the essence of who they are by exploring their own pathway and understanding its meaning.